No matter what your group calls, you have a continuous sheet or list to write ideas, questions and topics for future meetings. Often, during the discussion on a subject, really important things appear, which need to be addressed, but which are not on the agenda of the current session. If they are not urgent/time sensitive, it can really help the group to have a space on the subject to rate them, so that they can be integrated (and not forgotten!) in future sessions. Trust the group! After all, these agreements are for them. Anything proposed will add important content to the conversation that will reveal the needs and characters of the people in the group. The real power of agreements is that everyone has the opportunity to contribute, that they have listened to and responded to their personal needs in general, and that they feel safer now. Many people don`t get it: agreements are primarily a matter of safety, not police behavior. For this reason, it never works to use another`s chords. On the other hand, group chords in a very short time can help you create a group`s culture, and at the same time, by doing your moderator work, you can show people how safe you feel. There are many ways to create group agreements. To decide to use them, you can consider some of the following: whether the group will work together in the longer term, what is the controversy over the topic of the meeting or workshop, how long you have and how much confidence the group has in you as a mediator. Also consider whether the work should be divided into more parts.
The definition of community agreements or principles can contribute to a better dialogue with oneself, with the group and with the Community. Monica Brasov-Curca told me on Facebook: „During a wonderful dialogue training, the coach divided the basic rules into 3 parts. 1.) Community agreement 2.) Workshop Conditions 3.) Intentions to participate. And we contributed to the design of the three…. It`s really beautiful. Whether you start with a list of proposals or half ask a group to create their own agreements, you`ll find out what works for the group. And if I am a participant, here are some guidelines that I could personally propose to create the conditions for good cooperation. Whether you are a mediator in meetings in which you participate or not, the creation of your mediation skills will help you make your meetings better, more inclusive and more democratic! Here are some basic tips and suggestions that can have a big impact on your meetings. Things like community agreements, an agenda, an available diagram of your group`s decision process, and a place where important topics are stored for future conversations, next steps, etc., are important bases for a meeting – we call them containers. They act as visual tools on which participants and moderators can return throughout the meeting to keep the group focused, on the track and on the same page.